Emotional Intelligence: A Tool for Success
As you know, emotion is pervasive in our daily existence. Whatever we do or wherever we are, we experience it. A typical
day consists of situations that evoke varying degrees of happiness, anger, anxiety, or excitement.
Do you know what emotional intelligence (EI or EQ) is and
how it can benefit your life? Do you know how to manage your emotion so you can propel yourself to the next level?
In short, do you have the EQ edge for success?
There’s so much talk about emotional intelligence and how it
can promote personal and business success. Many corporations that prioritize productivity and profit spend thousands to make EQ seminars
available to their employees.
Why is this so? What is emotional intelligence?
Technically, emotional intelligence is the capacity to
recognize, understand, and manage one’s emotions and those of others. But in practical terms, EQ simply refers to emotional and social
Regardless of how you define it, this concept focuses on the
role of emotion in our daily lives, how it affects our reasoning and behavior, and how we can manage it to our advantage.
As you know, emotion is pervasive in our daily existence.
Whatever we do or wherever we are, we experience it. A typical day consists of situations that evoke varying degrees of happiness, anger,
anxiety, or excitement. We always feel something when we — have a date with a loved one, share our thoughts with a friend, receive greeting
cards on our birthdays, smile to a shy neighbor, shower our homes with laughter, or drive around a scenic national park.
Even in our sleep, our dreams trigger various emotions —
from anger and fear to excitement and joy.
Like the setting of the sun, emotion exists in our natural
midst and without it, life can be boring. So we should get to know it. We should use it to advance our cause. If we don’t, it will simply
overpower our resolve.
Anger for instance is normal and everyone feels angry for
different reasons. When your child goes home with a poor mark, you get upset because you realize he spends more time playing video games than
reading his school text. When a speeding car cuts you off in a highway, you will not only feel angry, you’ll get “MAD”!
However, uncontrolled anger can be destructive. If you grab
your son and hit him with a right hook because of his poor grade; or if you chase and bump another car for cutting you off, then you allow
anger to schedule your vacation in jail. Also, you let your emotion dictate the outcome of your life.
How many families have broken up simply because couples
can’t control their emotions? They exchange blows more often than they go to church. Some bicker more often than they eat meals together. How
many kids grow up with low self-esteem just because parents can’t stop their untamed tongue from unwarranted ridicule — putting their kids
down, calling them unprintable names?
When you let unrestrained emotion guide your destiny and
life decisions, then you may be in a big trouble along the way. However, when you recognize and manage your emotions and those of others
appropriately, then you guarantee your personal and professional growth.
Developing emotional intelligence should be prioritized at home and at work. Through its four basic principles of self-awareness
(knowing one’s emotions), self-management (controlling one’s emotions), social awareness (recognizing the emotions of others), and
relationship management (honing social skills), people can make use of their emotion to enhance relationships and to pursue
Emotion not only serves a special purpose in our lives, it also sets us apart from other creatures and makes us human with
unlimited possibilities. So tame it, befriend it, lead it, and love it. Very soon, emotion will be your ally.
About the Author:
Copyright © 2007. Dr. Michael G. Rayel – author (A 31-Day Series
and First Aid to Mental Illness) psychiatrist, and inventor of emotional intelligence games -- The Oikos Game Series and The CEO. Since
2005, he has published Oikos’ Insights! www.oikosinsights.com as an online resource for personal development. For more information, visit www.oikosglobal.com.
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